Sometimes we know how we feel. And sometimes we really don’t.
Especially if you are a people pleaser, you are very likely dissociating from your emotions or repressing them just so you can feel like a good person. You see if you believe that being a good person means being selfless you are going to have to hide your deepest natural instinct which is to put yourself first.
Your natural instincts are there for a reason. They are not selfish. They are TRUTH. If you don’t allow yourself to be yourself you don’t truly have a connection with other people. They have no idea who you really are or what you really want if you are just pretending to want what they want. It’s a deeply lonely mask to wear. And loneliness is scientifically more deadly than smoking. It’s time to feel your feelings, figure out who you are and what you want, and take the risk of making authentic connections with your tribe.
When we awaken/change and start being authentically ourselves we are often upset at people falling out of our lives. But they would never have been there in the first place if we hadn’t first been dishonest about who we really are. When we aren’t brave enough to allow our true selves to be seen, those who are close to us are blindsided, robbed of their ability to make a true decision as to whether they really love us or like us. It’s not just that you changed. It’s that even if you didn’t mean to, many of you have been lying about who you are to your loved ones for many years. They have every right to be upset about that. And you have every right to be your true self and feel your feelings. Trust that the right people are coming now that you are being your true self. Your True Tribe is essential to your health and well-being. #youdoyou and they will come.
Love Sky xxx